Should we split?
Some people should never split up.
Some couples get to a point in their relationship where they are stressed out and frustrated. They are exhausted, arguing and questioning, blaming, criticising, not being heard. They can’t see a way forward other than to split up.
It might seem impossible but many relationships even at this stage can become happy and loving again. Divorce lawyers tell us that some couples change their minds right at the last minute. Others divorce then re-marry!
Sometimes we get things out of perspective.
The niggly things like how they fill the dishwasher (or not) becomes so all consuming that you forget what you really love and appreciate about your other half. Sometimes small arguments are a mask for a deeper unresolved issue which relationship counselling, psychotherapy or NLP coaching could resolve.
Others should not stay together
If you are being physically or emotionally damaged then staying together ‘for the sake of the children’, or because you are too fearful of the alternatives, is bad news for you and bad news for any children, particularly if there is an atmosphere of conflict or actual abuse.
What is the source of the problem?
Mid life crisis, empty nest syndrome, stresses at work or financial worries are just a few examples of external factors contributing to one spouse taking it out on the other - not realising why they are unhappy.
Being in ‘no man’s land’ - should we break up or make up?
When people aren’t sure whether they should end the relationship or keep trying to make it work there is a lot of stress and a lot of internal conflict. You don’t put your heart into the relationship because you are withdrawing and shutting down to protect yourself. This behaviour can escalate the problems. Often we are so caught up in the stress that we can’t identify the sources of the problems and if they are resolvable or not.
The “Should We Split Programme” helps you identify what is working and what is not, the source of the problems, helps you get things into perspective so that you can move forward out of this stressful ‘no man’s land’. It also helps you understand why your relationship didn’t work so that you can grow through this process.
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